Delivering your grooms speech at the wedding reception can be a nerve-wracking experience especially if you are not well prepared for it. Speaking in public is one of the top phobias for most people. Sometimes it is difficult to overcome fear, anxiety and nervousness even if you already prepared your grooms speech. Public speaking anxiety can affect people from all walks of life. Some people are afraid that the audience would be hostile, the other, that they would be humiliated in some way. For many of us, it is just an unspoken rule, terror must be avoided at all costs. This is a natural fear that can be overcome with a few tips and effort on your part.
To get started, you should realize that anxiety is completely natural and almost everyone has the same feeling. Practicing your speech really can help to overcome a grooms speech fear. You can use a grooms speech sample and a mirror, just talking to yourself. It can help you improve your facial expressions, gesture, and learn what you have to do with your hands, etc. Then you can try the speech in front of some people to know how they will react to what you say. Read the rest of this entry
Thanking the bride’s family (1 -1.5 minutes) This section of your wedding speech needs to focus on thanking the parents of the bride. Traditionally, the focus is on the father of the bride, but you may choose to divide your time equally between all the people you need to acknowledge. The order should be, father of the bride, mother of the bride, and then the other important family members. You will mention them by name, so be sure to know all names you will need. This may seem obvious, but under pressure, you may not recall your wife’s youngest brother’s name (who you met once 2 years ago).
The exact content of what you say can vary, but traditionally the emphasis is on thanking her parents for accepting you into her wonderful family and for raising such a wonderful person. You mention your own anecdotes, but a standard one is to talk about the marriage proposal, or how you asked her father for her hand in marriage. You may want to mention your first encounters with her siblings, or a cute story that reveals your first impressions and how these have or have not changed. Humor is a good thing for this part.
My grooms speech planning was probably even more difficult than actually getting married. It was the one time I would be noticed. At the very least, for the actual wedding ceremony and all events leading up to it, all eyes were on her. I was really just an afterthought: “Oh yeah, him, the groom”. Looking back, I wish I had prepared a bit better. But at least I did prepare and this is more than some grooms can say. Overall, my wedding speech was a success, but I it would have been better if I had read a few articles like the one I am writing for you now.
The groom’s speech comes after the father of the bride and before the best man. I wish I had focused on this fact more. The father of the bride, in my case, was actually quite emotional to see his little girl all grown up and married. Somehow, it did not matter that this event was planned for and talked about for the better part of a year. He cried and noted poignant memories of his daughter’s first bike ride, her senior prom, and his recollection of his first impressions of me. When I stepped up to speak, my audience was teary eyed and I felt that the slightest faux pas on my part might have made some of them suicidal! So, be advised. You are following a tough act.
Keeping this fact in mind is useful during the planning stage. The groom’s wedding speech only needs to be 5 to 6 minutes long. But, this can feel like an eternity if you are not prepared. One thing you can control is preparing well. Start by getting some ideas down today! Do not wait until the week before. Start thinking about your speech a month or so in advance. You need to think about (1) how you will thank people, (2) what you will say about your new bride, (3) what you will say about YOUR parents, (4) and what you will say about the rest of the wedding party.
I want to make it clear that the main thing you do not want to do is to forget to prepare your grooms speech. You know the old saying “fail to plan, plan to fail”. But there are other grooms speech mistakes I recommend you avoid. Here is a list of the big ones.
1. Don’t overdo the alcohol:
At my wedding, I found that half a glass of wine helped take the edge off and calm my nerves. If you can control yourself, as I did, then a very small portion is acceptable before your groom’s speech. But otherwise, I would try to avoid drinking until your best man steps forward to roast you! Not only will you need a drink then, but you will have earned it!
2. Do not forget your bride:
It may seem like this is something that could never happen. Yet, by the time you thank everyone who has to be thanked and give your groom’s toast, it is possible that your delightful bride has been forgotten. This is her day. HER day. Be sure to shine the spotlight long and hard on her. Technically, this event is for both of you, but in reality, it is more for her than you. I hate to say this gentlemen but this is the way it is. Read the rest of this entry
The truth is when I proposed to my wife back then I hadn’t thought that I would have to make a groom’s speech in front of a big gathering. A wedding is always about pressure for the bride and groom. Well leaving that topic for another day, there is a lot of pressure for doing everything right on your wedding day. As the day gets closer, so does the tension starts to build-up. The bride wants all the arrangements to be charmingly beautiful, she wants her dress to stand out from any other and she wants her to be husband to make a vow to her of a lifetime of happiness. But what does the other half of the pair want? Well apart from no runaway bride, he would want to be remembered for his speech. The groom’s speech is one of the most awaited events in the entire marriage. It is big deal to almost everyone present on the big day.
The first few lines of the groom’s wedding speech can make the reception a grand success. To make a funny groom’s speech isn’t easy. How do you start? With stomach cringing anecdotes or do you do it the old fashioned way? Everybody will have their eyes out for what the groom has to say. The pressure is on you. Here are a few tips to make your wedding speech funny:
1. Tongue in cheek is the way to go
Every man always has a little boy still inside of him who will quite frankly never really grow up. You and your cheekiness can bring a dull wedding back to life. Start off a wedding toast with a “My speech is your average miniskirt. What you are about to hear will be good enough to cover almost everything but is that short that it will keep your attention”. Take the road if you have good pals who have your back although your bride will certainly frown for sure. Trust me my Mrs. wasn’t impressed at all. Read the rest of this entry